May 9, 2023 - Reading time: 5 minutes

As you know I got married a few years ago. But I didn't just want to get married. That is easy, you can do that in Las Vegas. I wanted to marry my best friend and I wanted to know that it would be a working marriage when I said "I do." And while I have alluded to that perviously, it seemed like a good idea for a further essay. So that is what I am going to do today. There are points that are obvious but there is more to it than most people think, it takes understanding and cooperation to make things work as much as it takes love and admiration for the person you are waking up with in the morning.

A working marriage is one in which both the husband and wife are dedicated to make the relationship work. While there is no one-size-fits-all definition of a successful marriage, there are some warning flags that couples should be aware of that may indicate difficulties in the relationship.

One red flag is when one or both partners consistently criticize each other. It can be useful to deliver constructive criticism with the purpose of improving the relationship. However, if your criticism is solely intended to undermine your partner, it can destroy trust and lead to animosity.

Another potential red flag is when couples stop speaking or only communicate negatively. In any relationship, healthy communication is essential, and married couples should make an effort to share both positive and unpleasant parts of their lives. When communication breaks down, issues can surface quickly.

Couples should also be conscious of changes in their sex life, since these might be indicators of greater problems in the relationship. A abrupt drop in sexual activity could indicate that one or both parties are dissatisfied with the relationship, and it's critical to discuss any changes in this area.

Furthermore, financial stress can frequently cause marital conflict. Problems can arise if one partner habitually spends more money than the other or if there is dispute over how finances should be managed.

Another indicator that a marriage is in peril is when either partner feels that they are always doing all of the work while the other does nothing. Both husband and wife in a healthy marriage should feel like they are contributing equally to the partnership. When one person feels as if they are constantly carrying the load, it can result in resentment and fatigue.

If you observe any of these warning signals in your own marriage, it is critical that you address them immediately. You can maintain your marriage strong and lasting by being honest with each other about your worries and working together to find solutions.

We Can Break This Down Into Four Categories

It takes more than just love to keep a marriage together. It takes time, understanding, conversation, and a lot of effort. However, if you are ready to put in the time and effort, it can be one of the most enjoyable experiences you will ever have. Below are a few things you may do to strengthen your marriage:

1. Communicate with one another. This is crucial in any relationship, but particularly in marriage. Communicate your needs and desires to your spouse, and listen to everything they have to say as well.

2. Spend quality time together. Plan frequent date nights, even if it's just staying in and preparing supper together. It is critical to maintain the romance in your relationship.

3. Improve yourself. To make a marriage succeed, both parties must be constantly learning and improving themselves, both independently and as a couple. This includes going to therapy or counseling together, reading self-help literature, and so on.

4. Be gentle with one another. Marriage isn't always easy, and you may want to give up or walk away at times. However, learning to be patient with one another during difficult times will strengthen your friendship in the long run.

A solid foundation of trust, respect, and communication underpins a successful marriage. These three elements are necessary for a happy and healthy relationship. A marriage will eventually fail if these are not present.

The foundation of any relationship is trust. It is essential that you are able to trust your partner completely. This entails being truthful with one another, being open about one's emotions, and being dependable. If you don't trust your partner, your relationship will fail.

Another essential component of a great marriage is respect. It is critical to respect each other's perspectives, ideas, and values. Even if you don't always agree with them, it's crucial to respect them. There can be no sincere love or understanding without respect.

Communication is essential in every relationship, but it is especially important in a marriage. Couples must be capable of communicating openly and honestly about their aspirations, anxieties, dreams, and desires with one another. If you and your partner are unable to communicate well, the marriage is unlikely to continue.

A happy and satisfying marriage necessitates the efforts of both partners. It's not always easy, but it's always worthwhile. If you want your marriage to last, make sure you nurture it with trust, respect, and communication.

November 17, 2021 - Reading time: 3 minutes

We could say that two people are growing together in marriage if it would not sound like a cliché.

Yes, I know that this title sounds kind of trite, and that there probably are a million books with titles like this, which in truth makes me shudder a bit, but the truth is that the sentiment has become too devalued, people aren't dumb, they don't believe in those promises anymore. And yet, knowing this, why did I ever think of placing a title like this on the post today? Well, because there are a few few of us out there still who believe in a title like that.

I am one of them.

Regardless, I know it has been widely abused as the key to our pocket books. But the value is still there, it is not the product of my imagination, we just have to ignore all of the hyped rhetoric that you see around. The values are simple. I can summarize them in just a few words, and it won't cost either of us a thing. But we can both be enriched by them.

Renew your love. This is easy to do. Surprise your loved one, introduce new novelties into your life and enjoy your time together with them. Next, fight the mundane and the routine. Be aware that routine is the main enemy of life together, it is easy to fall into a pattern that works but works against you. It steals the love from a marriage, this is a constant struggle, but it is important to keep fighting and keep giving love without reservation. This can become a good habit, one that allows you to continue to build your love every day. And you can always strive to love more, to maintain affection and tenderness. Because when you give affection and tenderness you are able to express your feelings. When you express your feelings you share, which builds a strong relationship. A practice which makes you permanently anchored in each other's lives; offering a chance to communicated with one another knowing how to do it with tact, prudence, share experiences. But so much can be said without words, sometimes you just need to be next to each other when you need it. Close relationships are those that have been able to adapt. Can the partners get used to the other person's customs, without needing to change them, to love them with their virtues and flaws, to learn to live with differences that make the union strong. Another technique is to jointly develop projects, engage in common tasks, continue to work toward a common goal. And in all things maintain mutual respect through our words and deeds, take care not to forget our manners and courtesy, and make sure we show our appreciation. Finally never forget to find a time to be together and be alone every day, this is our time to talk about everything and anything.

Huh, 307 words. Not enough for a book is it? But it has everything they try so hard to sell us and so much more. It isn't impossible, in fact it is easy once we realize that it is a labor of love.